Today my mother would have been 103

My parents, Beryl (25) and Fred Seel: engagement picture in 1948

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Beryl Seel (1923–2015): On What Would Have Been Her 103rd Birthday

On 11 February 1923, in a nursing home in Brunswick Square, St Paul’s, Bristol, Beryl Porter was born into a world still recovering from one war and heading, unknowingly, towards another. Today, this February 11th, she would have been 103.

She grew up in William Street, St Paul’s, in a crowded, extended household shaped by strong personalities and strict expectations. She described herself as a shy child, wary of a mother who believed that children were best observed silently. Yet there was warmth too, especially in the presence of her grandparents, whose room became a refuge. Her grandmother, in particular, emerges from her own recollections as a kind of unofficial civic institution - diagnosing childhood ailments, helping neighbours in distress, even cutting down a man who had attempted to hang himself. They were different times.

That family competence became a defining trait. As a schoolgirl she was already burdened with responsibility, required to look after a disabled brother during play times because no one else would. Yet she was not cowed by this. She joined the Brownies and then the Girl Guides, earned her badges with pride, became a Patrol Leader, and later a Brown Owl herself. She loved sport - netball, swimming, competitions against other schools - and won her Bronze Medallion at thirteen, even earning a mention in the local paper for hauling an incautious non-swimmer out of the pool. The phrase “stupid non-swimmer”, which she used herself, gives a fair indication of her wry, unsentimental humour.

War arrived when she was sixteen. She remembered with absolute clarity the Sunday morning when the family clustered around the radio to hear the Prime Minister speak, the older generation muttering grimly, remembering the last time. During the Bristol Blitz she worked alongside her father in civil defence, fitting gas masks, helping to run an air-raid shelter in the church crypt, serving refreshments during raids. When a bomb tore through the church roof and into the shelter below, killing some of those inside, including friends of hers, there was no rhetoric in her telling. Just the terrible facts locked down in memory.

Like many of her generation, she combined fear, endurance, and an undiminished appetite for life. There were dances, friendships, and a romance conducted through letters written almost daily while her future husband served in the Army. She disliked the work she was pushed into - the local Fire Service, then four years of 12-hour shifts underground in an aircraft engine factory near Corsham - but she did it anyway. When the factory was abruptly closed because the engines kept exploding on test, she remembered the night with delight: no work, what a relief!

Peace brought marriage, housing struggles, ration books, and the slow construction of an ordinary domestic life. Children arrived, and with them pride, worry, arguments, and joy. If there is one constant in her account, it's her sense of duty. When traffic accidents repeatedly occurred outside her Henbury home, she recognised that her Girl Guide first-aid training was outdated and simply joined the Red Cross to rectify the problem. 

That decision led to 34 years of service, qualifications in first aid, nursing, mental health, psychology, and physiology, and eventually a Badge of Honour awarded jointly to her and her husband. She trained cadets, many of whom later became nurses.

Later still, she spent 21 years working as a classroom assistant at a school for deaf children, with responsibility for the medical room. Again, she wondered whether she would cope, then got on with it. When she retired, the affection shown by pupils and staff clearly mattered to her; she kept in touch long afterwards.

Reading her self-written memories now, what stands out is not nostalgia or sentimentality, but steadiness. She was observant, modest, capable, and quietly brave. She disliked fuss. She valued usefulness. She lived through bombing, rationing, exhausting labour, and the slow rebuilding of post-war Britain, and emerged neither embittered nor romantic about it.

On her 103rd virtual birthday, eleven years after her death, the right tribute is not great language but clear memories. She was a woman of unbending moral principles, who did what needed doing and who understood that a good life is made from serious engagement: turning up, learning what is required, and helping where you can.

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